12 Then Abner sent messengers on his behalf to say to David, “Whose land is it? Make an agreement with me, and I will help you bring all Israel over to you.”
13 “Good,” said David. “I will make an agreement with you. But I demand one thing of you: Do not come into my presence unless you bring Michal daughter of Saul when you come to see me.” 14 Then David sent messengers to Ish-Bosheth son of Saul, demanding, “Give me my wife Michal, whom I betrothed to myself for the price of a hundred Philistine foreskins.”
15 So Ish-Bosheth gave orders and had her taken away from her husband Paltiel son of Laish. 16 Her husband, however, went with her, weeping behind her all the way to Bahurim. Then Abner said to him, “Go back home!” So he went back.
17 Abner conferred with the elders of Israel and said, “For some time you have wanted to make David your king. 18 Now do it! For the Lord promised David, ‘By my servant David I will rescue my people Israel from the hand of the Philistines and from the hand of all their enemies.’”
19 Abner also spoke to the Benjamites in person. Then he went to Hebron to tell David everything that Israel and the whole tribe of Benjamin wanted to do. 20 When Abner, who had twenty men with him, came to David at Hebron, David prepared a feast for him and his men. 21 Then Abner said to David, “Let me go at once and assemble all Israel for my lord the king, so that they may make a covenant with you, and that you may rule over all that your heart desires.” So David sent Abner away, and he went in peace.
Abner has decided that he made a mistake putting Ish-Bosheth in as king over Israel and is now trying to make right with David. It is clear that Abner knew that God wanted David to be king of Israel from the start because he goes around quoting the Lord’s promise about David. I wonder why Abner did not just allow David to take his rightful place in the first place. Why allow all this internal war to kill so many innocent people before actually doing the right thing? If I read between the lines I see Abner using the promise of God to make David king now because it suits him. He has fallen out of favour with Ish-Bosheth and so it is now convenient to remember who the rightful king is.
I think we do similar things all the time. We want something done our way even if God has made His will clear. We force our will and hope that God will eventually bless it, making us His puppet master. In this case, as we read on we see that Abner’s way eventually gets him killed like a common thief. So my encouragement again is to draw near to God and to trust that His plan is better than our plan… and that He wants us to have the best possible life. Taste and see that the Lord is good.